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Are you still dreaming about your ex? You would like to understand why it comes back at night, when you have moved on? Your reality is one thing, you are sure of yourself, but when you wake up, you sometimes feel mixed up? What is true? What is real?... Did you know that your dreams show you the keys to your future? The keys to your change... The codes that live inside you and influence your thoughts, your heart, and your choices... Even when you don't know it.

I still dream about my ex

During the day I love one man and at night I love another... Am I normal? 

You were in his arms, you even felt his smell... You had forgotten about it... but at night you still remember it... And your dreams are so real that when you wake up you feel guilty... Your husband sleeping beside you... You feel embarrassed by these dreams that come back again and again... 

In this article, find out why millions of people dream about their past relationships and what it really means.

Haunted by the past

However, for many it is clear that this relationship is over, but the fact remains that in dreams the past often resurfaces in surprising ways! 

We all have a reservoir of memories and this reservoir defines us as a person. This reservoir defines our attractions, our disturbances, and even our way of loving... 

Someone who has suffered in the past, suffered from having been betrayed for example, has recorded hundreds or even thousands of negative memories about love which will influence the way he or she will close his or her heart sometimes, for fear of suffering again.

And when our being "forgets" its sufferings, that it represses them for example, it then enters into a reservoir which one calls the unconscious. Where the data of who you are resides, of which you are not aware... And when this reservoir fills up - here in the context of negative memories -  it can lead to depression. Because the "system" has built up too much pressure... Just as a couple that builds up too much frustration, unspoken words or anger, may eventually choose to separate.

We are all living computers that record positive and negative memories, every moment of our lives... And at night, through dreams, our consciousness dives into this unconscious reservoir to better understand ourselves, to avoid even more intense misfortunes sometimes.

If only you knew how many problems we can avoid in our lives through the science of dreaming... Human beings, it's absolute, must sooner or later learn to decode their consciousness and their memories to clean up inside themselves.

If you are haunted by the past, it means that your soul is looking for answers now... That you are ready to go further too... Learn to transform old negative memories into positive ones.

Is it possible to love again?

With this article, I wish to say to all those who are living a heartache and who look to the future and ask themselves: "Is it possible to love again?" Yes! I tell you, it is possible to love again... It is even possible to love better again... Like getting up after falling and moving forward better afterwards... But to achieve this, we sometimes have to clean up our inner computer... Like in our way of conceiving the presence of the other in our life.

And in this journey of repairing the "broken heart", dreams are really the key to open the doors of the memories within...

And with courage, in a dream, you can face the truth, go and see why you hurt, why this relationship failed, and especially what you can improve in yourself so that one day you will find love again under a new day... one day you will find love again under a better day... and also so that love will be synonymous with happy longevity...

Is it possible to still love him?

Yes, it's possible that you still love him, often dreaming that you are in a relationship with your ex... But the more expert we become in analyzing our dreams, the more we understand that it's all a matter of "percentages" and "parts of oneself"... Let's start by explaining the percentage dynamic:

A beautiful dream or nightmare always represents percentages of our thoughts, emotions and or actions. This means that you can dream about a sadness that you carry within you, but it will only represent 3% of your current state... Or you can have the same dream but it will represent 40%... It all depends on your accumulation of memories and your ability to renew yourself.

Someone who is super jealous in love will also dream of jealousy situations sometimes... And if this person is super jealous their dream may represent 79% of their current personality... While someone else might get a similar dream and only have 0.8% of jealousy in terms of accumulation...

All this to explain that yes, if you are constantly dreaming about your ex, it is possible that you still love him or her, or that you still love what he or she represents for you... If he or she was rebellious for example, if that is what your ex represents for you, then you can understand that you are still attracted, not always but at times, to this force of rebellion, of countering others to get what you want, and sometimes of wanting too much to do things your way, etc.

We attract what we are

We attract what we are, so your dreams show you that you are still a bit like your ex somewhere, often in the negative, because sometimes we have not finished learning from a situation, even when we have finished living it... We can still process several parameters in ourselves...

And living with someone, sharing as a couple is a very intimate experience... We often say: "I've got you under my skin" and this kind of expression is very graphic, but at the same time it symbolically means how much we share of ourselves and how much the other person can influence us, enter into us in terms of behavioral, memory and emotional influence.

And if you are super-orderly as a person, but you attracted a completely disordered ex, that also means something... Life can be analyzed exactly like in a dream... It means that somewhere, deep inside you, you are also a little bit like that at times or in certain specific contexts... And you can also attract in a couple a person who resembles who you used to be.... Hmm... it's super interesting when you think about it, the science of resonances.... ­čÖé

A part of me

The other is always a part of you in the dream... Why? Because we visit our own consciousness at night, so you see how this symbol lives in you... Ok, stop! What does it all mean? 

It means that if you dream about your ex, on a beach with a dog: all the symbols are a part of you: you are your ex, you are the beach, you are the dog and you are you... You visit yourself at night, you visit your own percentages of memories

So, you shouldn't be afraid to dream about your exes ­čÖé Because they are actually a symbolism that represents facets of the past that still exist within you as a symbol.

Sometimes you are too nice, sometimes romantic, sometimes too distant or dependent... Like this or that ex... And your dreams show you... Show different sides of you.

It's over in reality, but what if it's not yet over in you?

In short, dreaming about your ex means that certain percentages of what this person means to you are still there... Still sticking to you...

You can change your house, but still feel sad... It's not the concrete change that will change everything in you... So it's the same thing in a couple, you can change your spouse and still feel sad, not finding the real happiness... The one you shouldn't look for through the other one, the one you should find in yourself... Even if one day a happy and fused couple can really self-generate mutual & deep happiness...

When you dream that you are making love to your ex or you see yourself kissing him, what you have to be careful about is not to wake up thinking about him all day long, thinking that he is going to come back in your life or that he still loves you, because sometimes it can be only symbolic!

Even if premonitions exist, there are few contexts where it becomes a premonition, because millions of people dream about their ex and they don't all come back together (laughs)!

So it's important not to project and conceptualize a reunion, or get lost in the meanderings of the past... Because often you can dream about your ex and maybe he or she doesn't dream about you or doesn't share the same affinities, etc.

It is then necessary to be vigilant not to project on the outside, but rather to wonder about what this person represents for us because it is very interesting to understand it becomes a symbol in a dream equation, about oneself and about what we still have to finalize with regard to this old relationship. 

Changing relationships like changing shoes

Do you want to know the truth in all of this? The truth is that most people will change relationships too quickly. They finalize a relationship that has created a failure in their life and out of need, out of a search to fill the void, the lack, they will start a new relationship too quickly. Often without having taken the time to take stock, to make peace and to renew themselves as a person.

We cannot change relationships like we change pairs of shoes, because our unconscious is filled with memories with the person, memories that have been shared at an intimate level, at a much deeper level than we can imagine... 

It takes time to take stock of your life when you choose to end a relationship and as most people do not take the time to go inward, to take stock of themselves, dreams remind us of what is still living in us in terms of memories... Dreams can bring back to the surface a difficult past, not digested, a fear of being cheated on, etc... Always to help you to improve yourself and eventually to free yourself from what still holds you back...

Why dream about your ex?

So, in the end, why dream about your ex ? To know yourself better... To understand these percentages of memories...

Because if you are still "connected" to him or her that you once loved, still connected even to 20%, in your heart, in your soul... This 20%, it prevents you from loving to 100% the person who is currently present in your life or the one who will come one day... 

Hmm... So cleaning up our memories is interesting in the end, to one day find our full potential at 100%... To one day love at 100% ÔŁĄ´ŞÄ

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Did you know that dreams have a logic that reveals the deepest dimensions of our consciousness and our existence? Indeed, all the elements of our dream, whether it is an object or a person, are in reality symbols, which we have encoded through our own experiences, with their positive and negative dimensions. All these symbols are part of the dreamer and represent him, even when he visits others in dreams. Did you know that the dream is a message from our unconscious mind that shows us why we think, feel and act in a certain way?

The Dream: a sometimes confusing journey

At first glance, a dream may seem abstract, illogical, confusing. So how can a dream change a life? I imagine you've already had the experience of waking up and being confused after an intense dream. Sometimes the atmosphere of our dream can even "stick" to us and confuse us all day; we may even need 3-4 seconds to know where we are so powerful the inner journey was.

The depth of a dream

But what happens when we dream? How can we see things in a dream that we have never experienced in real life or even seen in a movie? How is it possible that a dream can have such a profound effect on our state of mind, even make us sweat, wake us up in fear or danger? Or to amaze us with surprising revelations, even premonitory ones?

Skynet

The more we study dreams, the more we discover to what extent our consciousness and our unconscious are interconnected to our memories, to our life programs, which are not only linked to our experience, but also to others, and to the multiple dimensions of the Universe. The dream is an access to our inner computer, but also to what we could call the Skynet, the universal Internet.

The multidimensions of dreams

The more we evolve with dreams, the more we discover that it can become like a search engine, a possibility to receive answers to our most intimate questions and most useful secrets. It reveals to us who we are and gradually leads us to have access to the mysteries of the Universe and the multi-dimensions that constitute it.

A dream can change a life

A dream can change our life because it basically allows us to identify our inner dysfunctions before they manifest themselves concretely, thus offering us the possibility to transform them and improve ourselves.

For understanding dreams we must know that the meaning of our existence is only to develop qualities, to become a better person, a better soul. Thus, through our multiple experiences and realities (and those of our dreams) we learn to live, to think, to love; we integrate lessons of wisdom that transform our choices, and modify our life directions.

A symbol in a dream

Let's take the example of the symbol of the mother in a dream. First of all, it is important to know that a symbol can be as much positive as negative, depending on how it appears in the dream.

If we see that our mother in our dreams is kind, just, bright, in a positive context, then she represents a part of us that reveals how we take care of ourselves, as well as our emotional dimension and expression for ourselves and for others: our caring, protective and nurturing attitude on the inner level. It is important to know that we all (whether we are male or female) have the symbol of the mother within us. Negatively, the mother will represent difficulties to love oneself, to take care of others and oneself, etc.

Associating symbols

A symbol must always be put into context within the dream and also according to the other symbols that present themselves. What takes the most time when studying the interpretation of dreams and symbols is to make the link between them. Namely, the mother, if she is in a context of origin (the childhood home for example), will indicate our memories and what we have experienced, that which has influenced us and which constitutes the foundation of our emotional state.

If all is well in the dream, then great. But if there are problems, then that old experience is a fundamental emotional code that will influence many aspects of who we are and our lives.

The importance of context

If our mother is in a social context of today in the dream, this will indicate if we take care of ourselves when we are with others, or if we forget ourselves completely and get lost in our social relationships.

Also, to properly interpret a dream, sometimes we add to this general symbolism the qualities or weaknesses of our mother, as we perceive them. For example, she may have been highly motivated, energetic in starting projects, loyal to her values; or she may have been too submissive, or a complicated, critical or controlling person.

The origin of our behaviors

So in a positive or negative (or half and half) dream, our unconscious will talk to us about this aspect of ourselves, our maternal dimension, loving or not, sometimes showing us healthy evolutions or things to change, which affect us, and can plague our current relationships.

The dream will tell us in what context we behave in this way towards ourselves, and towards others in our way of accompanying them, and above all where this behavior comes from originally, what created it.

Transforming memories

By applying the symbolic language to our dreams, we can go back into our unconscious memories to do a cleansing, to reprogram ourselves, and not to repeat cyclic patterns in spite of ourselves, like a repetitive break-up of a couple in a strongly similar context, situations of harassment in our professional environment, a period of depression indicating an overflow accumulated for a very long time, etc.

A dream can therefore allow us to to free ourselves from our negative memories, from our karma, by becoming aware of the causes of behaviors that have limited us and/or made us suffer for years.

A single dream, understood in depth, can completely change our way of thinking and being, our destiny, and allow us to move towards what is right for ourselves and for others.

Reprogramming yourself

Dreams are also a very advanced spiritual experience when we know how to interpret them and use them for the good of our evolution. For in a dream, unconscious memories that inhabit us are revealed to us... We are told about our ways of thinking, feeling and acting... Which are benevolent or harmful, which create joy or blockages. And this, in all spheres of our life, and in all planes of our being.

A dream can even explain to us why we are ill, and which memories have created our illness. Thanks to a dream, we can even anticipate the concrete manifestation of an illness, because by transforming the negative dynamics at the level of our deep concepts, we can change the programming of our body.

The key to our future

The dream also has a premonitory dimension, it can help us to orient ourselves in our life to make the right choices for ourselves and for others.

Using the dream to make major decisions in our lives, we can access the consequences of our choices. For example, we can ask ourselves before going to sleep, if it is right for our evolution to associate ourselves with a particular person professionally? We can receive a dream that shows us a deserted company with a feeling of emptiness, of sadness. In this case, the dreamer will know his destiny if he chooses this path... Because the dream gives access to a universal calculation of all the elements, memories, of oneself, of the other, and of our affinities, compatibilities or incompatibilities. We can thus receive all kinds of dreams to guide us, by learning to ask questions.

The answer received can also be profound, explaining that the dreamer must transform such and such a thing before it is possible, without necessarily telling us right away if it will work or not. The objective is always above all to develop qualities.

It is essential to remember this when working with and using dreams to ask questions. If you only use dreams as a crystal ball, in a selfish, overly materialistic way, you will very often be confused, as the first goal and ultimate objective is the development of qualities. With time, the more we work on ourselves, the more we cleanse our memories, the more precise the dreams are, and yes, they can clearly indicate a guidance on the concrete and material level.

The essential

To study one's dreams is also to develop a lot of humility, because they are to be analyzed by coming back to oneself, because a dream always speaks of the dreamer with total transparency.

 

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Spirituality experienced in the right way is a source of harmony, well-being, discovery and deep understanding of oneself and the universe.

Sometimes, at the beginning of the path, it happens that as they deepen their spirituality, their meditations and their reflections, some people become hard on themselves... They may even become too extreme in their principles and values; they may become prickly, critical of themselves or others, or even intolerant when they feel, for example, in adversity or with some who oppose their worldview...

But why? In this article, we present the main unconscious memories that influence us in our path, in our spirituality, which can make us hard, rigid with ourselves or others ... We will discover that it is not spirituality in itself that leads to becoming extreme, but our unconscious memories that deeply influence our way of walking on this spiritual path...

And yet, what does it mean to be spiritual?

Contrary to what most people think, being spiritual is not simply praying or practicing a particular ritual; being spiritual is being qualitative in everything we do... Because spirituality is a path of evolution, of improvement that can welcome all those who wish to know themselves and better understand the deep meaning of life, and this, whatever the tradition, religion, etc.

Even if many will marry religion & spirituality together, being spiritual is not dependent on a religious practice, on the contrary, it is a philosophy, a way of living in connection with the multiple dimensions of life. It is also a search for a deeper understanding of what is lived... A quest for meaning in the "commute-work-sleep"... A way to try to understand life and to communicate more deeply with it, with oneself...

And to be spiritual, in reality, is to wish to become the best version of oneself, to seek to develop qualities of life that generate happiness on all levels...

Everyone is looking for happiness... and in one way or another everyone is spiritual, without even knowing it sometimes... A man who helps selflessly is spiritual, a child who dances in the rain is spiritual... A sick person who smiles at life is spiritual... We all have our moments of depth and we all have the ability to connect to a force greater than ourselves...

Moreover, when medicine, for example, is unable to respond to the ills experienced, many people turn to spirituality in order to find a deep cause for their inner or outer discomfort... And you have to know that spirituality can really bring answers, and yes, much more precise and logical answers than you may think, but for that you really have to find a modern and balanced spiritual Teaching... and above all seek answers with discernment, so as not to enter into extremism that destroys instead of helping us to build...

Perfectionism and high ideals

Perfectionism is an essence that in its positive aspect helps us to improve ourselves, to surpass ourselves in order to reach the best of ourselves... But sometimes perfectionism can also dampen our morale, and make us dry, too analytical, too square, dissatisfied...

Our emotional plan can then get stuck and create deep frustrations if we are not able to recognize our efforts, to congratulate ourselves for the steps we take... And to love life in the perfection of its imperfections...

This perfectionism can affect our spiritual aspirations. Having ideals, spiritual values in our concepts is something positive, because it allows us to follow our dreams during our journey, and thus keep our intention focused on why we are working on ourselves, on what we wish to achieve and integrate as qualities, as virtues. The strength of intention can lead to the manifestation of our greatest aspirations...

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However, high ideals can, combined with certain weaknesses, lead us to become extreme. When our goals are too big, when we want to reach the top When our ego starts to play tricks on us... Because we need certain qualities in parallel to reach these high peaks in a fair way, without hurting ourselves but on the contrary, strengthening ourselves.

The lack of love

We are spiritual when we do everything well to manifest ourselves in consciousness, with the will to always do our best. Spirituality is putting knowledge in everything we do. We observe ourselves and work to transform our distortions, our weaknesses, where we act, feel or think in a way we know is wrong.

When we are on this path but we lack kindness towards ourselves, love, it can create great discrepancies... Like a genius who becomes too much in his head and not enough in his heart...

We try to embody our values by lacking gentleness, understanding, kindness, which can hurt us and at the same time prevent us from evolving, because trying to apply knowledge without love does not work... This attitude creates blockages, limits us... It makes us more conceptual than concrete, leads to frustration... We then find ourselves in a vicious circle of harshness and demands, analyzing our environment in a desiccating way... And we can lose a lot of energy...

Life is a school, and we must accompany ourselves with the same love we would offer to a child: When he wants to learn something, to improve somewhere and he gets discouraged, cries, or becomes hard on himself, we talk to him with kindness, we comfort him... And this love gives him the will to start again in a better way to reach his dreams, he can then regenerate himself quite naturally and succeed...

To really learn, we must love...

In our spirituality it is the same process, we have to learn to love ourselves again, to compliment ourselves by pointing out our qualities, by recognizing where we have acted well in our day, etc... This is part of the journey so that our learning is effective and without extremism. To keep the beautiful side of perfectionism that helps us to excel, but is not too demanding or dissatisfied...

Lack of self-reflection and global vision

To become extreme towards oneself or others, it is also the sign that we lack perspective, humility and discernment.

But what is applying the return to self? It is what we do every time we take a step back from a person or a situation that affects us, to recognize that what bothers us in the other person is actually a reflection of something that bothers us in ourselves.

The other is always a mirror of oneself... In terms of percentages of conscious or unconscious memories...

When we don't do this, we project our own disturbance on the outside in different ways: Through reproaches, stinging remarks... Or even trying to influence the other to match our ideals, without realizing that by acting this way, we are hard and sometimes controlling... All these attitudes participate in making us extreme in our way of living our spirituality, and in general we don't realize that we are acting the same way towards ourselves...

Reinforcing this Law of Resonance according to which we attract what we are in both positive and negative aspects allows us to stabilize ourselves, to become more solid and confident in our path. We develop detachment, while being responsible... We broaden our global vision and discover true humility.

Indeed, as we deepen our spirituality, our vision of life expands. We gradually become aware of the different memories that make up our unconscious, and the fact that our soul experiences, builds itself over lifetimes, and lifetimes... That our distortions are percentages of who we are, and that they represent, once transformed, our greatest positive, qualitative potential...

Over time we realize that the cleaning of memories is done daily with patience and kindness, and that it allows us to rise, to improve ourselves, and also to inspire our environment to transform positively...

This collective and universal vision brings a deep serenity... But it can be slowed down or influenced by a negative force that we can all experience, something that sometimes pushes us to focus on our person in a negative way, to selfishly satisfy certain needs, certain insecurities, etc...

And some people think they have already reached high levels of spirituality, think they have reached the top, while the path has only just begun... This is what we call the spiritual ego.

The spiritual ego

As we have seen, spirituality and the journey awaken forces in our unconscious that make us excel, become better and other memories that can limit us. There are percentages of memories in us, old behaviors, ways of thinking that we have encoded that do not necessarily want to improve, to develop qualities... To stay calm instead of getting aggressive... To apologize instead of dominating... Our ego is part of it, and its influence on us can become profound.

We can easily recognize when our spiritual ego influences us: We feel superior to others, we have the impression that we hold the absolute truth, that what others experience or have told us is so much less important than our own knowledge and understanding... which has the effect of inferiorizing the people with whom we communicate, and leads us either to be constantly surrounded to feed this negative force within us, or to isolate ourselves.

Motivated by the negative ego, we can then find ourselves in a distorted, twisted form of spirituality where we seek to satisfy our personal needs, to fill our insecurities generated by our attachment to matter... Much more than to evolve... We can then become prisoners of an illusion that impoverishes us over time... and that makes us lose sight of the true spiritual path...

The spiritual ego prevents one from understanding one's place in the individual and global evolutionary process. A person led by the spiritual ego will not question his own attitudes, emotions and thoughts, and will not truly apply the Law of Resonance, because when we do it with sincerity and depth, the mask of ego has no place, and we find our way and our balance between self-confidence and humility...

Solutions and balanced spirituality, without extremes

It is normal that different memories come to the surface when we are spiritual, and this is a real gift from Heaven, which is part of the journey. Meeting our weaknesses means that we are ready to transform them and move to another stage of understanding.

When we perceive that in some way we are extreme, we can meditate with positive mantras, such as the Angelica Mantra techniques to develop the qualities that need to be worked on when we are experiencing extremism, for example: receptivity, i.e. the ability to listen, to welcome, support, benevolence, love, indulgence, balance, etc... These qualities allow us to relearn to love ourselves truly, to find balance in our way of building ourselves, to rise, as much internally as in our way of acting...

The mantra is one of the oldest meditation techniques that exist, it dates back to the dawn of time. It is as powerful as it is simple to practice. All you have to do is repeat a word, a sacred name or a phrase that carries a deep meaning.

With the mantra, it is the intention that is most important and that must be positive to generate a positive reprogramming of the consciousness...

To work with mantras is to really bring solutions to our problems, because we become what we repeat to ourselves internally... And the more we repeat qualities to ourselves, the more we can program them in and around ourselves.

We become what we repeat to ourselves...

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